What to Do for the I Do?

(photos Lisa Nicolosi Photography

One of the most important moments in a couple's life is their wedding. And the most important moment of the wedding is the Exchange of Vows. When a couple is not writing their own vows, they have choices when it comes to reciting them.

Traditionally, there are two options: saying "I do" or repeating after the Officiant. Both have their pros and cons. Here’s a lighthearted rundown of each.

Let's start with "I do." It's short, sweet, and to the point. You're making a clear statement about your commitment to your partner, and there's no room for confusion. It is such a great way for a couple who, as one Bride and Groom recently put it said, “we are not spotlight people”. Plus, it's a classic, time-honored tradition that you can't go wrong with. On the downside, it doesn't give you much opportunity to get creative or add your own personal touch.

Now, on to repeating after the minister. This option allows for more flexibility, as you can choose to recite the standard vows or select something else or write your own. It can also take some pressure off if you're nervous about remembering the words or saying them correctly. And let's face it, repeating after the Officiant can feel a bit like a game show, adding an element of fun to the ceremony. On the downside, it can take a little longer (but not much).

Both types of Vows are a heartfelt way to make public your commitment in a warm and meaningful manner. So, which one should you choose? That's entirely up to you! It's your big day. You should do whatever feels most comfortable and natural for you and your partner. Just remember, no matter what you choose, the most important thing is that you are choosing each other!

In closing, I'd like to leave you with a beautiful quote by e.e. cummings that perfectly captures the essence of what we're celebrating:

"I carry your heart with me (I carry it in my heart)I am never without it (anywhere I go you go, my dear)"

Congratulations to all you happy couples out there, and may your love continue to grow and flourish for many years to come!